There was a man in my group today who said he was shy, and not hot enough for his girlfriend. Then he 'shyly' showed me a stream of photos of himself modeling over 50 different outfits, with 50 different looks from hipster to executive to cop to athlete, to movie star, you name it. These photographs were full of confidence, grace, and so HOT. It was hard for me to connect the timid person sitting next to me with these images that were vibrating with sexuality.
It made me wonder - why do men hide their sex? You guys are like volcanoes ready to erupt. What are you afraid will happen if you let yourselves out? He said he was afraid his friends would call him vain or narcissist, or worse, that his woman would laugh at him. I had the thought she would melt into his arms. Men, we need you to come out and be the peacocks you are, strut your stuff, and let your masculinity show. Even if we appear to act shocked or disapproving, inwardly we'll be shouting alleluia, and plotting how to rip your clothes off.
You have no idea how easy it is to please a women, and this woman in particular.
All you have to do is give me your undivided attention, every once in a while (all the time might get boring!). "That's easy for you to say," you say; women are all over the place - talking to you while texting on their phone or worse, looking over your shoulder- and they never give you their undivided attention. Guess what men, and here's the good news - it's easy for you to do this. You know how to be single focused and present, And that's what we as women CRAVE because it's so damn hard for us to do this!
You don't have to impress me, you don't have to be a masterful lover, clinician, jack of all trades, executive, or fancy stepper. To sweep me off my feet, all you have to do is pay attention and be yourself. You don't have to TRY. I know, I know, you think that if you just let your uncensored, raw and beasty self out, we'll run away screaming, or worse, verbally castrate you.
I challenge you to test this out. Next time you're with your woman, or any woman, do some research: Find out what happens if you shut up and listen. Then take a risk and tell her something about you that is raw, uncensored and true about you. And feel the jolt of electricity that fires up between you. You might see her melt before your eyes.
